Cringe Worth Photo Mistakes

By Lauren Ware

hat makes a photo “cringe-worthy,” exactly? You know it when you see it: you click on someone’s profile and can’t help but cringe as you flip through their photos. It’s that guy who snapped a shirtless cell phone pic of himself flexing his muscles in a dirty mirror. Or that girl who’s just a

Statistics show that profiles with photos are viewed far more often.

tiny face in a sea of women sitting around a restaurant table… so small, in fact, you’re not even sure which one is actually her.

There are already too many ways to turn people off with the photos you choose to post in your profile. Look over this list of the worst offenders as defined by the 13,162 men and 43,178 women who responded to Match.com’s online poll on this subject and see if you agree with their choices. If you have any of these date-repellers posted in your own profile, don’t waste time: swap them out for something better today!

Below are the top 10 cringe-worthy mistakes made in profile photos, ordered from least to worst offensive:

10. Posting one photo or no photo at all with a promise to email more if contacted
This should go without saying, but put a photo — any kind of photo — with your profile! Statistics show that profiles with photos are viewed far more often than those without. And besides being tacky, no one wants to have to email you to see what you look like. They’re going to wonder why it isn’t right there and what you’re hiding instead. So put up some pics of yourself already!

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Why You Need To Have Your Heart Broken

I was lucky and lasted until I was 24 years old before I truly got my heart broken. Sure, there had been people in the past who had hurt me, and for a while when they did it felt a lot like a broken heart should have. You see, I always assumed when someone really broke my heart, like in the movies, that I would cry for months and write them letters every day begging for them to take me back. In reality I couldn’t sleep or eat for three days and eventually thought about checking myself into a hospital. When they left me sitting on the front steps of our shared apartment, I wrung my hands so viciously I quickly gave up my attempts to stop biting my nails. It wasn’t sadness like I thought it would be — no, instead it was absent. Absence of this person and the absence of knowing who I was without them.

If getting your heartbroken sounds like the worst thing that will ever happen to you, then you’d be right. It is. It stings and it feels weird and you don’t understand why you’re sobbing at a radio commercial; you just know you’re not in charge of your emotions and it feels scary and reckless and wonderful all at the same time. It took me three days of not eating and sleeping to realize this, but getting your heart broken is the best thing that can ever happen to you.

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Subtle Flirting

Pity the guy with the cheesy opening line and the leering grin, the one who talks to a woman’s breasts instead of her face. Coming on too strong can send a woman running off in disgust or amusement. Master the art of subtle flirting, though, and you can be a winner in the dating and mating game.

WHY FLIRT?

Flirting is partially hard-wired, determined by biology; partially cultural, something that is learned; and partially a consciously chosen act. Flirting sends a signal that you are sexually interested in someone. At the same time, flirting lets you test the other person to see if the interest is mutual. When two people flirt, they begin to get to know each other, revealing things about themselves while finding out more about each other. Subtle flirting keeps the getting-to-know-you process moving at a comfortable pace, not too fast.

SHOW YOU MEAN NO HARM

Many instinctive flirtatious movements and postures convey the message that you are not going to harm the other person. This is a subtle, non-verbal type of communication that is attractive on a deep, instinctive level. A body posture that is open and unguarded sends the message that you are neither going to attack nor flee. Placing your hands palms up on your knees, thighs or on a table sends the same message.

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