The 14 Worst First Date Ideas Ever

1. A slam poetry reading. There is a time and a place for slam poetry (in theory; in practice it is my personal idea of hell), and that is NOT when two people are just beginning to get to know each other. You’ll get to know a hell of a lot about the poets, since it’s a share-fest up in there.

2. Your amateur comedy show/rock concert/whatever. Baby Jesus, sweet baby Jesus in his swaddling cloth, please do not. Because, well, see #1, plus the added discomfort of you potentially sucking. Such a bad vibe for a date.

3. One of your friends’ birthday parties. I don’t know why anyone thinks taking someone to a birthday party on an early date is a good idea. Standing around making forced small talk with strangers while you’re semi-aware that everybody’s judging you is not a good time. ALSO, there is rarely cake at twentysomething bar birthday parties, so there’s not even that perk.

4. Da Club of any variety. This is where you meet dates, not where you bring them. You may as well sit down 2 feet from a construction site and try to have a yell-conversation there.

5. A fast food place. For a fourthmeal? Totally. For the main dinner? Not so much. Fluorescents flatter no one.

6. Your parents’ house. SLOW YOUR ROLL. This makes me think you are already auditioning wedding bands.

7. An exercise class. Not only do I kiiiind of feel like you’re going to judge me for being out of breath at times, but the gym is where I go to escape the obligation I feel to be cute all the time. Don’t ruin this for me.

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Top 5 Tinder Tips To Help You Get A Date

There once was a time when using dating sites and apps was taboo, limited only to those without the balls to go meet people in person. That time is long behind us. If you’re single in 2015, you’re much more likely to get a sideways stare if you’re not using Tinder to meet dating prospects.

With well over one billion users in total – 10 million daily active users – and a soon approaching IPO, Tinder is one of the most popular and successful mobile apps to date. For singles, it allows users to scan through potential romantic interests on a mass scale.

In early 2014, I moved to a new city and used Tinder as an opportunity to meet new people. What’s more, I conducted an experiment and published my findings in a blog article, which proceeded to go massively viral. I embraced my sudden Internet fame, and continued to test with even more vigor. I published a book called TinderHacks, and have since helped hundreds of guys find success on Tinder.

It’s not rocket science, but a staggeringly large number of guys are struggling to get the results they desire. Unfortunately, many struggling men try one thing on Tinder, get no results, and decide Tinder doesn’t work for them. I promise you that Tinder works for everyone. You just need to put in the time to test and optimize your profile, based on your unique strengths and overall goals.

I want to help you showcase your best, most authentic self to potential matches on Tinder. These 5 Tinder tips will absolutely help you get more matches, messages, numbers, and dates.

Optimize Your Tinder Profile For More Matches

Call it shallow, or superficial, or whatever you will, but there is no denying Tinder is driven by appearances. Users judge each other instantly based on a picture, and feel no regrets or repercussions for swiping left (to pass).

Your first profile image is the only thing a potential match will see when swiping through a stack of potential matches. Only after they click on your photo will they see your bio or other images. Most of the time, that never happens (or doesn’t happen until they match with you). They judge you based on your first photo, and decide whether to swipe right or left. This is not a bad thing, though. In fact, you can use it to your benefit, as long as you understand the game.

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The Do’s And Don’ts Of Dating A Colleague

Since about a third of our time is spent at the office, it’s not surprising that romance can easily spark between colleagues.

At work, you’re often surrounded by bright, driven people who understand your work stress and worries at the office, so dating a colleague is actually pretty common, says career coach Barbara Pachter.

“[Work] is where people meet a lot of people. It’s either there or online dating,” Pachter, author of the book “The Essentials Of Business Etiquette,” tells Business Insider.

According to a Payscale office romance report, 15% of the 42,000 respondents said they would date someone they work with. And one out of five people who gave romance with a coworker a shot ended up marrying their colleague.

However, there are some basic rules to keep in mind when dating someone you work with. Below, Pachter tells us the most important do’s and don’ts you should follow.

Do follow your company’s policy.

Every organization is different. If you’re interested in a colleague, make sure you know your company’s policy, so that you don’t violate any corporate regulations.

You especially need to be aware if you’re required to come forward with your relationship. The last thing you want is for a love interest to have a negative impact on your career.

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How to Ask a Girl on a Date Over the Phone

Asking a girl on a date can create nervous feelings, especially if you are very interested in dating her and you’re not sure if she feels the same. If you decide to ask her out over the phone, it is important to keep proper etiquette in mind so you create a positive and respectful impression. With so many current advances in communication technology, it can be easy to avoid making face-to face invitations or even speaking over the phone. Make the effort to be more persona to demonstrate that you’re confident and honestly interested in spending time with her.

Ask her for her phone number and arrange a time to call her. Planning a time to call her indicates that you want to talk further, and it will set a positive tone for the conversation. It can also create a sense of anticipation in the object of your affection.

Show your interest by asking questions. Talking on the phone can be challenging if you are just getting to know someone. Start the conversation by asking her how her day was or what she has been doing recently. This will help you create a natural flow of conversation. If you aren’t sure what to talk about, think up topics before you call so you aren’t scrambling for something during the conversation.

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To Be Or Not To Be: Friends with Benefits

We know the old song and dance. Being friends with benefits can either be an awesome arrangement or a ticking time bomb. The question is: do we want to take part?  Learn what to expect and know when to bow out. Most of all, lay down the ground rules with your friend right from the start. Do you want to be exclusive? How often can I call you over for Netflix and Chill? Can we binge Star Wars in the order I think is canon or is that too date-ish?

Let’s face it — There’s a lot less drama with your friends compared to with your significant other. It’s easy to be insecure with someone you want to date, which in turn results in tension. With a close friend, you know each other’s quirks and flaws, and you don’t have to keep appearances. Order the burger at that restaurant you love! Fart and blame the other person! Wear those comfy sweats instead of that new scratchy shirt! The rules of dates don’t apply here (within reason, of course).

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How To Successfully Approach A Beautiful Woman

Ever find yourself dying to approach a beautiful woman you saw somewhere but you didn’t have the slightest clue how to do it — let alone the nerve to even try? If so, I can guarantee you this: Just the thought of trying makes your heart race and palms sweat. But guess what — it doesn’t have to be that way. Here are the top 10 ways to guarantee a successful approach every time.

Plain and simple: Your fear of rejection is your worst enemy — yet it usually just doesn’t happen. The fact is, a beautiful woman won’t scream and run away from you. She won’t point you out to her friends and laugh. She won’t turn into a monster from hell and cut you down.

The truth is, most attractive women will respond somewhere between neutral and positive to being approached because you’re doing something that makes them feel good. It’s flattering, exciting and fun, and for that reason alone you’ll almost never see a woman respond by getting upset, being rude or acting offended. So stop worrying about it, and stop letting fear of rejection ruin your chances before you even try.

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Top 10: First Date Ideas

As a dude who has been on over 200 double dates, I’d like to think I know a thing or two about the art of the first encounter. A first date should be casual, but not so spontaneous that it seems carelessly unplanned. And a first date should allow partners to chat and get to know one another (so unless you’re a mind reader, save movies and live performances for date number three or four).

Most importantly, with greater risk comes greater reward: the more you’re able to wow a woman on a first date, the stronger your bond with her will be. Of course, work too far outside of your comfort zone, or overshoot your own abilities with a date too complex for you to handle, and you’ll be spending all subsequent evenings with your forearm of preference.

Behold, the best first date ideas from easiest to most difficult.

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Seven Dating Tips for Men

Let’s face it, when it comes to meeting the next Mr or Ms Right, we could all do with a little help. Here are seven things to keep in mind next time you’re out on a date.

1. Don’t forget your manners

Without getting too Sir Lancelot about things, a little etiquette goes a long way. If she looks nice, tell her that. Maybe open the door as she walks through, or offer your arm as she steps down from the curb – but play it by ear and don’t go too overboard. Also, make sure you remember her eye colour (trust us on this one) and when you’re comfortable, maybe test the waters by leaning in a little closer as she speaks – if she backs away, well, it’s probably not going well.

Launch the gallery to read about and view more of our seven dating tips for men.

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12 Dating Tips That Will Transform Your Love Life

Real talk: Dating is sometimes harder than it should be. After countless dinners and drinks, it can be tempting to throw in the towel and resign to nights of forever watching Netflix alone in your bed. But when dating is done right, it can be amazing, and those great dates often lead to great relationships. So consider this your dating playbook, with all the information you need to survive the first date and make sure there’s a second one.


Sure, you might meet the love of your life while sipping gin and tonics, but wouldn’t it be so much cooler to say you met at a mud run? You never know where you’re going to meet the next person you date, so if you’re only looking in one spot (like that bar where you’re a regular) then you’re missing out on tons of possible partners. We know plenty of couples who have met while standing in line at the grocery store, a Target parking lot, even a naked reality show. The takeaway? Love can crop up anywhere, so get out there and keep your eyes open.

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10 First Date Tips

If you’re single and dating, you may be surprised to learn that the dating pool is actually quite deep, even if it doesn’t always feel that way. There are more than 100 million unmarried American adults — which is more than 45 percent of all adults in the U.S. — but not all of them are unattached [source: U.S. Census Bureau]. Roughly 5 percent cohabitate with a partner, effectively kicking them out of the pool. But what we can take away from this is that there are many single Americans, and a good percentage of them are swimming around looking for a date.

While the dating scene may seem like a lot of work to one person, to another, it’s a fun way to meet other people. But all things being equal, first dates can make most of us anxious. It’s Just Lunch, a dating service for single professionals, surveyed single American adults and found that nearly 70 percent of men and about 50 percent of women won’t bother with a second date if the chemistry isn’t there. When there is chemistry, though, 97 percent of men will call to ask out their love interest again — in 72 hours or less [source: Search Your Love].

Trying to ensure a second date? Or develop a long-term relationship? First, let’s get you through the nerve-wracking first date. We’ve compiled 10 first date tips for both men and women, so let’s get started with choosing a first date activity.

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