As a dude who has been on over 200 double dates, I’d like to think I know a thing or two about the art of the first encounter. A first date should be casual, but not so spontaneous that it seems carelessly unplanned. And a first date should allow partners to chat and get to know one another (so unless you’re a mind reader, save movies and live performances for date number three or four).
Most importantly, with greater risk comes greater reward: the more you’re able to wow a woman on a first date, the stronger your bond with her will be. Of course, work too far outside of your comfort zone, or overshoot your own abilities with a date too complex for you to handle, and you’ll be spending all subsequent evenings with your forearm of preference.
Behold, the best first date ideas from easiest to most difficult.
Let’s face it, when it comes to meeting the next Mr or Ms Right, we could all do with a little help. Here are seven things to keep in mind next time you’re out on a date.
1. Don’t forget your manners
Without getting too Sir Lancelot about things, a little etiquette goes a long way. If she looks nice, tell her that. Maybe open the door as she walks through, or offer your arm as she steps down from the curb – but play it by ear and don’t go too overboard. Also, make sure you remember her eye colour (trust us on this one) and when you’re comfortable, maybe test the waters by leaning in a little closer as she speaks – if she backs away, well, it’s probably not going well.
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Real talk: Dating is sometimes harder than it should be. After countless dinners and drinks, it can be tempting to throw in the towel and resign to nights of forever watching Netflix alone in your bed. But when dating is done right, it can be amazing, and those great dates often lead to great relationships. So consider this your dating playbook, with all the information you need to survive the first date and make sure there’s a second one.
Sure, you might meet the love of your life while sipping gin and tonics, but wouldn’t it be so much cooler to say you met at a mud run? You never know where you’re going to meet the next person you date, so if you’re only looking in one spot (like that bar where you’re a regular) then you’re missing out on tons of possible partners. We know plenty of couples who have met while standing in line at the grocery store, a Target parking lot, even a naked reality show. The takeaway? Love can crop up anywhere, so get out there and keep your eyes open.
If you’re single and dating, you may be surprised to learn that the dating pool is actually quite deep, even if it doesn’t always feel that way. There are more than 100 million unmarried American adults — which is more than 45 percent of all adults in the U.S. — but not all of them are unattached [source: U.S. Census Bureau]. Roughly 5 percent cohabitate with a partner, effectively kicking them out of the pool. But what we can take away from this is that there are many single Americans, and a good percentage of them are swimming around looking for a date.
While the dating scene may seem like a lot of work to one person, to another, it’s a fun way to meet other people. But all things being equal, first dates can make most of us anxious. It’s Just Lunch, a dating service for single professionals, surveyed single American adults and found that nearly 70 percent of men and about 50 percent of women won’t bother with a second date if the chemistry isn’t there. When there is chemistry, though, 97 percent of men will call to ask out their love interest again — in 72 hours or less [source: Search Your Love].
Trying to ensure a second date? Or develop a long-term relationship? First, let’s get you through the nerve-wracking first date. We’ve compiled 10 first date tips for both men and women, so let’s get started with choosing a first date activity.
There are 7.125 billion people on earth. If you’re looking for “the one”—as is your “one in a million” person, that gives you roughly seven thousand one hundred twenty-five people to choose from… and that’s if you prefer both sexes. So, divide that number by two and you’re given a little over 35,000 people to choose from.
That’s a lot, yet with these stats in your face, people are expect to choose only one person and spend the rest of their lives with them without at least wondering who else is out there? If this sounds crazy to you, you’re not alone. If these statistics fill you with confidence and reaffirms the choices you’ve made as correct, you’re also not alone.
Still, recognizing you’ve found the one person you want to spend your life with is a lot easier said than done. Then, what happens when the love goes awry or when someone better comes along? This might help.
How Do You Know You’ve Found The One?
A person should always have a list of prerequisites constantly open in their minds like an ongoing collaborative Google doc. It should list the attributes they wish to see in a person and a checklist of ways someone else should make you feel before committing to a relationship. At thesame time, that list cannot be too specific (i.e. black curly hair, one green eye and one blue one) because you’re setting yourself up for disappointment with such in-depth requirements.
You ever leave a date thinking, “Why didn’t I do that?” or “Why did I do that!”? I know I have, on multiple occasions. If right now you’re preparing for a date your brain is probably racing with all sorts of ideas and questions. I’ve been there, recently too. I get tempted to wish dating was easier. But the truth is I want dating to remain adventurous. I just need to plan ahead and prepare for it. Here are some first date tips and etiquette that you can always apply. Don’t be too cocky that you think you can just wing it. First impressions are important because you only get one shot.
Since I started dating I’ve gone on some wonderful first dates and some that I don’t recall because they were that horrible. The sad apart about the ones that went wrong is that I planned the date. If I was the conductor and the music didn’t flow then I can only blame myself. It might have gone different if I had Google to rely on back in the day. I didn’t’ though so I learned from my mistakes and others.
If you don’t know where to take her on a date and are looking for Date Ideas then be sure to check out my article
By Lauren Ware
hat makes a photo “cringe-worthy,” exactly? You know it when you see it: you click on someone’s profile and can’t help but cringe as you flip through their photos. It’s that guy who snapped a shirtless cell phone pic of himself flexing his muscles in a dirty mirror. Or that girl who’s just a
Statistics show that profiles with photos are viewed far more often.
tiny face in a sea of women sitting around a restaurant table… so small, in fact, you’re not even sure which one is actually her.
There are already too many ways to turn people off with the photos you choose to post in your profile. Look over this list of the worst offenders as defined by the 13,162 men and 43,178 women who responded to Match.com’s online poll on this subject and see if you agree with their choices. If you have any of these date-repellers posted in your own profile, don’t waste time: swap them out for something better today!
Below are the top 10 cringe-worthy mistakes made in profile photos, ordered from least to worst offensive:
10. Posting one photo or no photo at all with a promise to email more if contacted
This should go without saying, but put a photo — any kind of photo — with your profile! Statistics show that profiles with photos are viewed far more often than those without. And besides being tacky, no one wants to have to email you to see what you look like. They’re going to wonder why it isn’t right there and what you’re hiding instead. So put up some pics of yourself already!
I was lucky and lasted until I was 24 years old before I truly got my heart broken. Sure, there had been people in the past who had hurt me, and for a while when they did it felt a lot like a broken heart should have. You see, I always assumed when someone really broke my heart, like in the movies, that I would cry for months and write them letters every day begging for them to take me back. In reality I couldn’t sleep or eat for three days and eventually thought about checking myself into a hospital. When they left me sitting on the front steps of our shared apartment, I wrung my hands so viciously I quickly gave up my attempts to stop biting my nails. It wasn’t sadness like I thought it would be — no, instead it was absent. Absence of this person and the absence of knowing who I was without them.
If getting your heartbroken sounds like the worst thing that will ever happen to you, then you’d be right. It is. It stings and it feels weird and you don’t understand why you’re sobbing at a radio commercial; you just know you’re not in charge of your emotions and it feels scary and reckless and wonderful all at the same time. It took me three days of not eating and sleeping to realize this, but getting your heart broken is the best thing that can ever happen to you.