Pity the guy with the cheesy opening line and the leering grin, the one who talks to a woman’s breasts instead of her face. Coming on too strong can send a woman running off in disgust or amusement. Master the art of subtle flirting, though, and you can be a winner in the dating and mating game.
Flirting is partially hard-wired, determined by biology; partially cultural, something that is learned; and partially a consciously chosen act. Flirting sends a signal that you are sexually interested in someone. At the same time, flirting lets you test the other person to see if the interest is mutual. When two people flirt, they begin to get to know each other, revealing things about themselves while finding out more about each other. Subtle flirting keeps the getting-to-know-you process moving at a comfortable pace, not too fast.
SHOW YOU MEAN NO HARM
Many instinctive flirtatious movements and postures convey the message that you are not going to harm the other person. This is a subtle, non-verbal type of communication that is attractive on a deep, instinctive level. A body posture that is open and unguarded sends the message that you are neither going to attack nor flee. Placing your hands palms up on your knees, thighs or on a table sends the same message.