After witnessing countless nervous couples meet, fall in love and return to celebrate their anniversaries, your server’s got a lot more to offer than the daily specials! Read on…
Need some advice from the front lines of the dating world? Talk to your server. Day in and day out, they’re the ones who overhear the awkward conversations and see the hopeful come-hither looks from behind the appetizer menu. Think your waitress doesn’t know you’re on a date? Think again. The wait staff absolutely does know, and they have a lot to say about it. Check out this excellent pick-up and dating advice from waiters and waitresses:
Choose your target wisely.
“Know your level,” says Charles Drengberg, co-founder of TalesFromTheShifts.com. “If you’re a newly divorced 50-year-old man who’s kind of out of shape and drives a Toyota, don’t bother hitting on the 23-year-old bombshell wearing the Louboutins. Hit on the 35-year-old divorcee with a bit of spilled margarita on her blouse buying the shots for her friend’s bachelorette party instead.”
Treat your server well.
“I see a lot of dates come into my restaurant, and one thing I would suggest to men is to treat their servers well,” advises Darron Cardosa, a waiter in New York City and the voice behind The Bitchy Waiter. “I am not saying that because I want a better tip; I’m saying it because I feel that women pay close attention to how their date treats other people,” Cardosa explains. “I work in a small neighborhood restaurant. One woman who is a regular often uses our restaurant as a first-date spot for men she has met on dating websites. When he goes to the bathroom, she will call me over and ask me what I think.”
Look into the object of your affection’s eyes.
“Wait for meaningful eye contact and a smile,” advises Drengberg. “If a girl is avoiding eye contact with you, it’s because she’s not into you. It’s not because she’s being coy. Don’t creep up on girls like a Black Ops paratrooper. Wait for a woman to give you a reason to talk to her.”
Head to the bar, not the bistro.
“Meeting a partner in a restaurant is a much more difficult proposition than it is in a bar,” says Gregg Rottler, founder of Dinnersfromhell.com. “In restaurants, diners are isolated [while seated at] their tables, making introductions challenging. Slowly sauntering by someone’s table looking for the telltale ring on a finger can easily prove unsuccessful, since hands are often concealed underneath the table.”
“I would tell men not to talk too much about themselves,” says Cardosa. “It’s so clear when a woman’s turned off by her date because he’s talking about his interests non-stop. Ask her questions about what she likes! Everyone likes to talk about themselves, but we only want to do it if we think the other person is interested.”